Hello my blogger fans/friends and family. I am sorry I kinda fell off the map for a minute. I guess I owe you all an update.
Well, Life has changed for me. I have changed! Thank you Jesus for the  BETTER! I grew tired of going through the motions and kinda going on  auto pilot through my life.
Going through life just existing without LIVING. Not knowing the meaning  of why I am here or what I was suppose to do with the cards of life I  had been dealt. Situation's  dealing with and handling several family  members with strong and horrible addictions  were consuming everything  about who I was. I was filled with bitterness and hate and more than  anything full of hurt and confusion. Mainly because I couldn't fix it. I  ran myself in circles to everyone's rescue when in fact I was the  biggest enabler.Then faced with that..... I felt guilty and responsible.  So I was still left trying to mend things.. only to be left  disappointed not only in the situation but in myself for not being  strong enough to keep trudging through it. I was quite literally on a  huge hamster wheel. I was trying to manage a life that wasn't mine. I  have an awesome most loving husband that God has blessed me with. He  truly is my best-est-est-est-est friend. Truly a match made in Heaven.  Put together by GOD! And we were blessed beyond anything we could ever  deserve with Nicholas. And yet I found myself sometimes neglecting them  running to the aid of someone I thought I could save. 3 am I would leave  my husband and son in bed to go 80 miles to beg... i mean BEG someone  to please get in the car with me. Why I was begging him to come with  me.. when he was the one who called me I have no idea. But I tried to  remember that he wasn't in his right state.But,that was the night I gave  up. Not on him. But in thinking I could do this. I am STRONG...but I am  not unbreakable. I cant LOVE him enough to change him. I cant want it  for him. I cant beg God to hear me when I wasn't sure what I was asking  for.On the side of the interstate begging someone I love soooooo much to  please let me get them off the side of the road and take them home.  While he cussed me.. told me mean and hurtful things and I sobbed and  sobbed and quite literally hit my knees that night on the side of I-65  and very desperately asked for help. that night I gave him to God. While  I will always love and always be there for my family. But their  addictions can no longer consume me. I guess I really did have to hit  that low place to fully give him to God. I no longer run after him. I no  longer go looking for him in bad places when I haven't talked to him in  a day. Not that I don't worry , or love him. But because God has truly  given me peace and I can rest in knowing that its bigger than me. I had  to get out of GODs way.I still help, but in a different way now. I offer  hot meals. Warm showers and rides to Dr or grocery stores..keep kids  when times aren't so good...etc etc. It took me MONTHS to get to this  place.It hasn't been easy I must admit. God gave me strength for sure! But  there were areas that I had to stand up for myself and declare a few  things for myself through Him. Things not so accepted by my peers. But they  eventually started talking to me again and understand and respect my  choices. I no longer get the calls in the middle of the night. I no  longer see the drug use in front of me. I no longer over hear the  conversations/deals and I no longer wonder about any of it either. I  still had feelings of guilt and feeling like I was abandoning them.  And  that is just HALF of what was going on in my life at that time. On the  other half was this MASSIVE WARRRR with my father in law. Years of being  burned and all the deceit and evil plotting against me and my family.  Fighting him for a relationship with my very own mother. Talk about  exhausting. Constant terrorizing!
The HATE I had for THAT man. WOOOOOO its enough to scare even a Holy man  I'm sure! My life was like a deadly cancer. There was NO LIFE in it.  Looking back , I'm not surprised I felt like giving up and crawling into  a dark hole all the time. Not feeling sorry for myself at all!!! Quite  the opposite actually. Im overwhelmed with honor and humbled with Gods  love for me to take alllllll that junk from me.Right in the middle of  this life...he through me a life line. One that I FINALLY grabbed!!And  after months of grabbing hold of it.Feeding on it. I am a new person.  Halleluiah! 
Thank you Jesus! 
There is no way to fully describe whats happened to me in the past 6  months. Those of you that know me and how my life was and how consumed  and unhappy i was with life.
 I cant begin to tell you how happy and full of life I am today! And  its by no works of mine. All I had to do was open my heart to Jesus. To accept and know that he DOES love me!
The things of my old life are still  present BUT my perspective is clear and all the fog is gone. I am  thrilled to say that TODAY my step father and I are in a great place.
WHO IN THE WORLD WOULD HAVE THOUGHT THIS WOULD HAPPEN!! 
 I had this enormous need to make things right with James. To give him a  heart felt apology for my part in this horrible on going battle between  the two of us and i wanted to give him my forgiveness for all he had  done as well. 
NOT because I wanted to prove something to God or to anyone else. NO one  even knew I was going over there. I just had this overwhelming need to  LOVE him! Wow right! At first I fought the feeling and thought I was  getting to deep and moving to fast in this God thing!! I was scared to  open doors that I shut-Locked-Bolted-bricked SHUT!!! I didn't want to  feel the pain all over again.
The man I would dream about at night disappearing never to be found. I  was now wanting to embrace and love on. I felt compassion for him. Where  was this coming from.
God removed the hurt...he stripped the anger... he BURIED all that..  the spirit of the Holy Ghost... that LIVES in me was awakened like  nothing I have ever experienced in my LIFE! 
Things are not perfect! And they will never be perfect! I'm constantly  changing. He is constantly moving me from Glory to Glory! 
Now when I go to my moms the first thing I do like always is hug her and  tell her i Love her. And now I make a 'B' line directly to James. Our  hugs are getting longer and longer and a time or two we just kinda stood  there holding one another hugging and when we finally broke away we  were BOTH crying!Never exchanging a single word. I honestly feel like  God is over flowing. He has opened his heart and MINE and God is doing amazing things  . I'm telling you!!! Its WONDERFUL to be a part of and watch! Im excited to move  forward! God has massive plans and he is truly working over here!!! FOR  SURE!!! 
God is so wonderful so loving and so forgiving. We are HIS! He created  EACH of us and wants us ALL to prosper and live Heaven on Earth! 
I am as broke now.... as I have ever been in my LIFE! But feel so RICH  its like I should be wearing a crown. Oh wait I AM!! Thank you JESUS!
I feel so blessed beyond any measure. I have so much to be so thankful  for and so much to cherish. All the gifts God has given to me.
I see things so clearly now that I never in my wildest dreams ever thought possible. I SEE THEM HAPPENING! And im NOT just talking material or monetary here.. I'm talking EVERYTHING. Restoring relationships-breaking chains-setting folks free-stripping stuffffffffff away!! WHOOOAAAAAA!!!
I have finally after 30 years of wanting I now have a Church family! That shelters and accepts and loves you unconditionally! 
I don't feel like when I walk in there is a red flashing arrow hovering  over my head exposing all my "junk". I feel accepted and loved and a  place where I belong.
God does hear your cries. He does answer prayers. I'm walking in mine. Thank you God. 
I may not look like it... But I feel like a shining star glowing so bright! I feel Jesus all over me!
So there is my update. That's what I been up to and why I haven't been around much. I've been busy falling in love. <3 
Thank you for being patient with me and hanging in here. I see the  tracker where you guys have continuously stopped by and Ive gotten the comments. Thank you all so much for not giving up on me. I plan on  jumping back in with the
Templates and blings and tuts etc etc. 
And I think my blog may double as a journal from time to time.
Sorry for the rambling. But you know me. I ramble......